Question by cre_babe: Should I move out of childhood home into boyfriend’s apartment?
I’m 19 years old, in my second year of college and live at home still because its close to school and free. I have no freedom though; less than the freedom I had as a Sophomore in High School even. My Mom and I don’t get along and are usually fighting for one reason or another. Some of it stems down to bad choices I made last year regarding school and work (I picked work over school) and nearly flunking out because of it. Some of it comes from a lack of trust due to an event that happened in my childhood to me. Now I understand I screwed up last year, but I’m trying to fix my mistakes and didn’t quit college or give up. I literally have to ask permission to do everything that doesn’t involve staying in the house. I have to ask to visit friends, and get accused of lying and not actually going there, I have to ask to go on walks, or run to the store or to the post office down the street. And when I ask, I get accused and questioned. She asks why I have to run to the post office everyday. Hmm…maybe to get the mail? I can understand about having to ask for permission for using one of the cars, because I do not have one of my own. I understand that completely. But because of my choices last winter, I’m forbidden from getting another job, even though I have to pay for gas, tuition and save up for next semesters tuition and books. She still ‘tries’ to enforce a bedtime and all my friends but one are allowed to stay for about two hours at a time. She questions the young relationship with my boyfriend, because she’s never met him due to a series of events that led to his family’s move to Australia.

This boyfriend is moving home soon, with his parents support and permission, to attend his senior year at home. They’re giving him his full legal rights, but still supporting him because it was their choice to send him home rather then keep him in Australia. My mother constantly tells me that I’m an idiot dating someone two years younger than me because he’s in high school and still a minor. This blows my mind because my older sister is dating someone that is about 14 years older than her. My boyfriend has offered for me to move in with him, not just because I’m his girlfriend either, and his parents have all but drug me out of my house and into the apartment. Money won’t be an issue for around a year, because they won’t allow me to assist in paying rent and bills if I move in, because it is their decision and they see me as a daughter.

Moving in with him will essentially start World War 3 between my Mother and I, and I’ve been trained to keep the peace in the family, even if it means putting my own comfort and personal safety aside to do so. Living at home causes fights as well though, as well as stress upon me. Opinions and suggestions are wanted, and I apologize for such a long posting.

Best answer:

Answer by beautifulrainmeiyu
your mother probably wouldn’t trust you with living with an 18 year old, especially with the fact that he is just getting out of high school and you have only graduated.

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